Rita - drop the A and add an E - and make it the RITE time! A lil silly poke to make you smile and support you while you are hurting.
The right time is different for everyone I suppose. Im sure there is a therapeutic clinical RIGHT time suggestion and then there is the way everyone else does it - in their own time and in their own way. I could tell you as could many others when the right time is..for each of us...when we got to that point.
For me - if it matters or helps - it was a death of the girl he cheated on me with and the stupid a** I was to help him thereafter while he spat hatred in my face. A 27 yr old eating disorder re emerged and I tore out my hair and hated myself. That was when I stopped living for myself and put him first...and I realized I too, would die with his addiction by being involved with a hateful sick person who did not and would not get well...whose bottom was not death of another - who does not have a bottom.
So hang in there and think...just think...the answers will come to you