(((((journeygal))))))- i think gabe is right on about affirmation. i have learned to find a mantra and say it to myself over and over. i look in the mirror and say it to start my day. one of my first one's was "I am a woman of confidence"
my 16 year old niece and my gay friend were saying it as well!! (hehehe)
anyhow it really helped. i usually try working them out with my therapist or a close friend because the wording is important. just in figuring out the wording you help yourself! anyhow i always think of stuart smalley from SNL when i say them and it puts me into a good mood. "gosh darn it people like me!" so maybe you can come up with one that "FEELS" right for you. you will know it is the one for you because it will resonate. i really think affirmation works wonders.