Thankyou all,
Yes, that's the way I look at it too, they have choices now too. I want them close, but I know for now distance is okay, they have to learn for themselves now. I'm just hoping sooner than later. As much as I want to get on the phone and give them advice, they just aren't open. There's much denial there, and hopefully God will break through that denial.
I've turned them all over to the care of God, and pray that everything changes for the better for them.