By the way, NOLA, things are a little slower here on the weekends - you may get more responses tomorrow, so hang in there.
Also, there is a Sober Recovery forum (two above this one) for Friends & Family of Alcoholics. There are more people there, and as you might guess, they have lots of experience with dealing with alcoholic loved ones -- you may get a variety of responses/ideas there. Would you like us to move your thread there?
Hang in there,
GL