I'm not sure Myles.....I don't feel like that is one of my characteristics.....
My relationship with my A has always been a battle for CONTROL or POWER. We both want to be the boss and the leader....neither of us will tolerate being manipulated or dominated.....trouble is our reactions to each other just fueled the fire.
I'm not sure about the victim thing either...it would seem to me that all involved are victims of a much bigger evil. Alcohol. Although it affects everyone involved in a different manner, we all suffer from the effects. I guess I don't see one party being the victim and the other not.
Maybe I misunderstood what you asked.... Constant