Originally Posted by GiveLove

"Not a chance he's willing to take???"That job in particular is a trigger and bad memories. So.....he gets to decide this?We both decided that but yes it was his choice to make that move. That he doesn't feel like working any more, that you can support him physically and financially now?Ummm who said that? Now that he needs you, he gets to move back in without a plan of recovery, any steps, anything?Who said that too? He has his plan and will follow it or he'll leave

Not to be all negative (you are)or anything but.....why is moving back in with you his decision and not yours? It was both of our decision and discussed for a period of time

My sister was hospitalized for a long spell and spent four days of it in a coma, abdominal surgery, the whole nine yards. She came out sure she'd never drink again. She was drinking two days later, and gone a year after that, leaving hundreds of thousands of dollars in debt.

I hope your boundaries are clear and your plan is a good one. Do you have kids? How do they feel about things?