We can work the steps in AlAnon too!
Here's a link to the 12 steps - step study forum here on SR
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/step-study/
My father said working the steps is what really, finally, got him through the worst of changing from an active alcoholic in the throes of addiction to a recovered alcoholic who had truly changed himself and his life. He was sober/recovered, with the help of AA, almost 20 yrs when he died.
Ideally I think you internalize the steps as a way of living life on life's terms...I know sponsors suggest re-visiting certain steps when an alcoholic hits a bump in the road (any bump in life's road- not necessarily relapse)...
You could post your question on the alcoholic's forum - I bet you'd get a range of answers since step work is very personal.
Peace-
B.