Originally Posted by
Stubborn1 
When I ask him about going back to his old job he quickly says "no fkn way". He says he doesn't want to be alone and he is way better off staying with us and it's not a chance he is even willing to take.
"Not a chance he's willing to take???" So.....he gets to decide this? That he doesn't feel like working any more, that you can support him physically and financially now? Now that he needs you, he gets to move back in without a plan of recovery, any steps, anything?
Not to be all negative or anything but.....why is moving back in with you his decision and not yours?
My sister was hospitalized for a long spell and spent four days of it in a coma, abdominal surgery, the whole nine yards. She came out sure she'd never drink again. She was drinking two days later, and gone a year after that, leaving hundreds of thousands of dollars in debt.
I hope your boundaries are clear and your plan is a good one. Do you have kids? How do they feel about things?