**{JT}} Life has it's funny way of giving us things to focus on.....you've been much more focused on your mom that it was off Ward and the best thing is you didn't even notice it. In a sense you focus was were it should be....priority was your mom and not on what the A was up to really.....Does that make sense? Because of the situation you needed to be there for your mom and concentrate on those things at hand in dealing with her medical situation......in the past...maybe you would have been torn between the two situations as in (your mom's surgery and recovery.....and Ward's or the Beav's behavior's) and would have been spreading yourself thin and driving yourself crazy. But now you were able to leave the other behind, not feel guilty, and take care of what is at hand and priority.
Ok, not sure if I stated it well, but, I am proud of you and send you lots of hugs.......!!!!!!!!!!
I, too, have had this realization not to long ago. Don't remember if you remember me posting about that....but my SO has been not drinking to drinking less....(maybe one or two here and there) since his dad got sick.......to the point that I hasn't realized the the box of beer that is usually in the refrig had disappeared and I hadn't noticed it until one day I went to put something big in the refrig that needed room and thought to myself ....wow, there's room. It was then that I realized that it was gone.....but it has sinced been back but empty now and don't really know when he drank them.....he didn't drink to the point of getting drunk...which would have been noticeable sorry to day. But I had realized that my focus hadn't been on him or his drinking really....it was on other priority stuff! I wasn't worried about what he was doing!
Well....I hope all goes well with your mom and we both conitnue to keep our focus where it needs to be.....Don't forget to take care of you in all this also. You're such a sweety!