I have read on the F&F boards since I joined in May and I never understand the us and them stance.
I rarely see the "us" and "them" mentality here. I have noticed some confusion once and awhile on the "keep the focus on yourself" aspect of it.
Maybe it's the same as when I read over on the Alcoholism board and I don't understand why they're never talking about the pain they have/are causing their loved ones, but about healing themselves, staying sober. That doesn't mean they have an "us" and "them" mentality, does it?
I've always believed everyone is in recovery together. It starts with me.