Marle,
I'm sorry that you are having to watch Megan in her denial. But let it remind you that we all get caught in denial at times, and do have to go back to step one- both the addicted ones, and the codependents. It is good that you are a shining example for your daughter in returning to the steps, knowing that that is where you will find peace and serenity again. Hands off the addict, even though you want to help so bad, right? I suffer from the same problems here and am realizing I need to get myself back to step one as well. So in your pain, thank you for the reminder.