IS it likely or possible that we are used to expecting a miracle that the smallest of good deeds or victories - are so overrated (for codies) that we rejoice a lil too damned much and get back into the YES YES YES! HOORAY! adrenaline rush for the small victories that we repeat the cycle with them??????? I am not saying the small vicotries are not essential to the bigger picture and survival of all affected by addiction..,but I wondered if those small victories can be celebrated with some reserved happiness so we dont appear to be such suckers and let them falsely think they have us where they want us for further manipulation. I guess that is part of the CD cycle with the addict?