Wallow in self pity, (it's all a choice)... I'm sure you mean well, tlrgs, but, those statements do not apply to me.
The phrase "self pity" has always bothered me greatly...it's as though it's implied I'm self-centered and that my problems are meaningless. I'm not self-centered and my problems do matter.
If it really was that simple for me, I'd be cured. That line of thinking doesn't work for me. If it did work, I would have been cured a long time ago and never would have stumbled onto SR.
I do not begrudge anyone who wants this approach...I'm looking for something I've never heard before. Please don't take offense. I'm glad you took the time to post.
I cannot control my mood and my thoughts. That’s the problem. A desire to have a better life apparently is not enough for me. It remains to be seen where I go from here.