I have a 30 year old AD who is also lost in denial. She's lost custody of her children, thank God, and has been in jail so many times that it's no big deal-three hots and a cot for her.
I debated for a long time on whether to go see her the last time she was incarcerated, and finally visited. She spent the entire time on the other side of that glass panel smirking and told me she doesn't have a problem with drugs/alcohol/anything.
I walked out of there with a sense of closure, knowing I have done everything I could, and left her in God's hands.
My contact with her is very limited because I just won't listen to her garbage anymore.
:ghug2