K,
Maybe you're tired of providing all the money, all the affection, all the strength in this relationship and getting precisely jack in return.
Maybe you want your child to have a better start than that.
For what it's worth, I think your mom is right. There seems to be nothing in this relationship - even before he wasn't working - that feeds you in the way you deserve. There IS someone out there who will accept the love & tenderness you offer and give it back to you many times over.....probably lots of someones.....but you will never meet them as long as you settle for this mediocre, one-sided relationship.
I could not have known the joy I would find when I finally took a deep breath and left my XABF behind, and found that there were people out here who are nothing like him. I mourn the years I spent deliberating about it.
I hope you are taking care of yourself and have faith that taking action will result in a better future for you & your baby.
GL
P.S. Not to scare you, but I've seen women miscarry from the stress of bad relationships, and it's eerie, almost like you said -- like the baby could see what it was about to be born into, and said, "Uhhh, no thanks, I'll come back later when I have a better chance in life." It is sad as hell, but (in my niece's case for example) later on she was able to have a strong, healthy son, when the conditions weren't so dangerous for him. It's like he knew it was okay to come then. Take care of the two of you!!!!
