I do not want to jeopardize his sobriety by requiring him to work too much and either miss meetings/sponsor/step time or college.
CIM, nothing you do or don`t do will cause him to use or stay clean. If that were possible, not one of us would be here because we have all tried everything we could think of and walked on eggshells trying to not upset them for fear they would use. We just don`t have that power and today I am grateful because I don`t want the responsibility for anyone else`s life.
My thoughts are that if he has the money for all this, then he has more money than you think that he could be spending on classes.
You don`t have to discuss what you know or don`t know about his sex addiction and time on porn sights, you might just tell him that you have reviewed your own budget and just cannot help him right now. You get to make that choice, you don`t have to explain your reasons.
I love Mooselips choice of phrases at times like this...``I know you`re smart son and am sure you will figure something out`...or words to that effect.
His computer, his bad choices of sites, his poor spending habits on porn are all his issued to deal with, and if he has to pay for everything himself then he can take the consequences for his poor choices. It`s his lesson to learn.
Hugs