drained wife,
I have just kicked out my son and it is so hard. I know that getting rid of a man whom you love can be hard, but you have to love yourself enough to do this. You deserve a life without turmoil, and your kids are experiencing the turmoil too. Just do it DW! I know it's scary, but I loved anvilhead's comparison was priceless. The first step is the hardest, the rest comes as we need it. You just need the strength to get through one step at a time.
I'm sorry if I sound impatient. I am also talking to myself. I have pussyfooted around with kicking my son out so many times. He stays gone for a while and then he weasles his way back. He may even back tonight. Your AH is a user, manipulator, liar. Sorry if i have offended you. You do what you can today.
krhea