Old 09-23-2008, 02:21 PM
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Jody Hepler
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Join Date: Feb 2006
Location: USA
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This is the dance of addiction - and I know it so well. He does this, I do that. I walk away - he comes back with promises. We try again. He says I'm too controlling and don't understand - he walks away. I beg him to try again, just one more time. He goes back to using and I walk away. Ad infinitum! Until one of us dies - or recovers.

I needed "detox" from the addicts in my life - just like they needed "detox" from their drugs. And it was horribly emotionally and physically painful. I'd start to get through it, and after a few days, I hurt so bad, I would go back - just a "little bit" - just crack the door. And whomp, there we were doing the dance again.

Just like the addicts have to substitute something for their drugs - usually AA/NA. I did too - Alanon/Naranon.

You can do this - hang in there - two steps forward and one back. You are not pathetic - you are moving on your path, sometimes quickly and sometimes slowly.

Love in recovery,
Jody Hepler

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