((jo))
hate so much that this happened - I can relate to those heartbreaking family events when the A's "act out".
It is so very difficult for me to not "take this on" as my own. But Al-Anon has given me the tools to keep reminding myself that this is NOT mine. I have little post-it notes that say
"Alcoholism/Addiction is NOT my fault"
"I do not have the power to cause another person to act a certain way"
"I am only responsible for myself and my actions"
"It's not about me"
Sometimes I have to repeat these statement 100 x's a day - but it does help me to work on letting those unrealistic guilt, responsible and shame feelings go and let my HP handle the situation.
Prayers & good thoughts for you as you work thru your emotions, the same for your family and also for your AS that his heart & mind will be open to recovery soon.
HUGS,
Rita