jusaboutus,
I know that gut feeling you get, and I'm finally learning to trust it. My AH has been charming and participating in housework and parenting, saying he's not drinking during the week. I suspect it is either a manipulation so he can keep his family and drinking too, or a feeble attempt to prove to me (and himself) that he's not an alcoholic. Either way my gut is saying not much has changed. I have been tempted so many times to go looking, but have not. Then my 4 year old finds an empty fifth in our storage room.......just a reminder from my HP to trust that little voice.