Originally Posted by
Pajarito 
"she needs to know we've moved on."
In my experience, it takes a lot longer for the children to accept the parents moving on than it does for the parents. IMO, he is being extremely insensitive to your daughters feelings by putting the new gf "in her face."
But, having said that, you have no control over his insensitivity. Why not ask your daughter how she feels about this trip? Is she comfortable/confident enough to tell you how she really feels? Is she in counseling?
Counseling was an enormous help to my children in getting through the separation/divorce. I highly recommend it to anyone going through divorce, whether alcoholism is involved or not. It gives them a safe place to express their fears, and it takes some of the burden off you as a parent as far as "having all the answers" goes.
You don't have to do it all, Paj. It's okay to get some help.
L