Ever since I posted the above post....I've poked around and asked many others and re-read the Basic Text.
I have come to see that I dont exactly agree with my sponsor and Im ok with that.
I can remember a time not that long ago where I'd be all out of sorts if I couldnt agree with my sponsor about something.
I do think the dishonesty is a defect. I learned from what she said and that's the important part.
Im still a bit perplexed as to why she explains it the way she does.