My AH is NOT in recovery!!! He is NOT sober!!!! He's just doing all his drinking/drugging at a neighbor's house b/c I asked him NOT to drink in our home anymore!!!
DOCUMENT, DOCUMENT, DOCUMENT. Get a notebook, write down times, dates, what is said upon his return from the neighbors when he is out of it, even get a little tape recorder and tape him when he's high. Document any job problems, ie firings or suspensions because of drinking, and of course, any DUI's or bar fights
Give all to your attorney and intensely express your concerns about him have unsupervised visitation. Family Court in California is notoriously for ordering Supervised Visitation.
Do not concern yourself with his Alcoholic QUACKING. That is all it is, Quacking.
You Shivaya are an inspiration to others. You are doing what is best for you and your children.
Thank you for being here.
Love and hugs,