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Old 09-01-2008, 08:02 AM
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greeteachday
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Early in working my own recovery, I struggled with that feeling that I was being selfish by focusing on me and not trying to fix everyone else's problems. It felt really alien to place my feelings first...I just wasn't wired that way. But as I kept working on me I discovered a few things.. that the control I thought I had was false and never existed; that the people I spent so much time and energy trying to fix whether addicts or nonaddictsr eally were capable of handling their own stuff and my meddling denied them of their right to grow, and also that it was healthier not only for me but for all those I love to focus more on me and less on them. I am happier and healthier in all ways and the change in me has benefited others around me too. Now selfcare has become more natural and it doesn't feel selfish. I'm discovering the difference. Hugs
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