Was I right in what I did?
I vote YES! Absolutely well done!
D 14years old who does not know of her father's problem...he has always been good in disguising it...every trick in the book,
She may not know what the "problem" is because obviously you haven't been straightforward and just named it for her -- but she knows SOMETHING ain't right!!! I guarantee it.
Secrecy and lies and shame and covering up are the bread and butter of alcoholic families, it's their stock in trade. There may be a little less shame on the frontside when the alcoholic is high-functioning and not an obvious mess, but when the kid eventually finds out the REALITY (which we all do) there will be a lot of shame on the backside since they think this was something so shameful that Mom and Dad tried to hide it from me-- and anger from all the times she knew in her gut something was "off" but everyone around her, whom she trusts, was pretending nothing was wrong.
I choose to live for my children and not for him or make excuses any more.
Bravo!! Now there's a mission statement you can live up to-- I would just add "and myself" in there.
You can only ever change yourself!!
Peace,
B.