Good for you for protecting your child, and everyone else on the roads! I had an incident where a fifth of vodka was found empty in the trash after my AH had taken my son to baseball at 3pm. I confronted him, he denied it. I pushed the issue and he called me a "B", and slammed doors and threw a royal tantrum. That was a huge wake-up call for me and it was around that time I joined the forum and have some definate boundaries in place. He doesn't drive the kids......period. He can drink like a fish and not appear intoxicated, so I have no way of trusting whether he's had 1 beer or 1 case. I would be very surprised if your 14 year old is not aware of the extent of the problem. Once I started talking about "the elephant in the room" I was shocked at how much my kids know.