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Old 08-30-2008, 07:12 PM
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Bernadette
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...it's because it allows them to not have to deal with his drinking. Kinda like it's not their problem.

Well, it's NOT their problem is it? Just like it is not yours. Maybe you're having a hard time letting go this last little bit because you still feel or want some ownership of his problem? Which might mean you still have some little bitty feeling or wish that you can change it or fix it! It is very very hard to let go of that wish, and the fantasy of control....I know I get waves of it all the time that I have to dispel with my rational "recovered " mind!

You sound like you're doing really well and moving forward. Slow and steady is a fine pace when you're preparing for such a big change. You'll know when the moment is right Summer....

It must be hard knowing he has been good to your kids and grandson....your sons are adults, they have the choice to maintain contact right? And ABF has the choice, every day, and the opportunity every day, to find recovery/sobriety.

Don't ever feel bad about making the healthiest choice for YOU.
Easy does it-- (((((HUGS)))))
Peace,
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