Detaching with love was hard for me. I detached with indifference. In my situation I had already lived with an alcoholic as a teenager so I had little patience for doing it again. I also had my own children from a previous marriage to consider and I had no desire to subject them to an alcoholic step mother. For me detaching with indifference was a coping mechanism for me until I could change the living situation.
LTD is spot on with the three As. We each have our own progression through them.