(((Marle)))
When I was new to recovery, is when I realized what a codie I was. Mayber, like peaceteach said, Megan is seeing a codie side to herself? I had read about codependence, years ago, thought it applied to me. It wasn't until I got into recovery that I saw how much it influenced my using. Someone elses' actions/words (especially XABF) would get me so confused and stressed, that I'd want to use.
I'm not sure if that's what's going on with Megan, but it might be a part of it. The good news is, with recovery we learn to put our focus on us and less on them. It may take a while, but I think Megan's a smart girl (takes after her mama) and will figure it out.
Hugs and prayers!
Amy