I agree, Marle. Your light, love, and ESH are shining for all of us. I also support Sleepy's suggestion of the "control" issue. If it is for YOUR benefit, then yes. If it is to keep Megan from danger, that is between her and her HP. She may also be experiencing her own codie issues, the "addiction" to the boyfriend who will just bring her down, much like we do as codies ourselves. She has many lessons to learn in her sobriety, and she must be the one to recognize self-destructive behaviors that she lets into her life, just like we have. Thank God she has an incredibly loving, smart role model to witness in her mama. Big hugs and support, Marle.
