another thing that I was thinking here. I don't know if this is your AD's first recovery or not. But for my AH - this is his FOURTH - if you recall he was just recently kicked out of rehab for using. His A most likely has spanned the last 10 +- years. It almost seems that RA's need to dip their toes back in just to test the waters. Like they think they can "recreationally" use. I don't know - I'm just 2 months into this site, but it seems that relapses are VERY common. It seems RA's just don't seem to "get it" the first or second time around. Hugs to you - you are a GREAT mom and your dd is lucky to have you - even if she doesn't realize it in this moment.