Rozied,
I'm glad you have the block on the phone. Jail phone conversations
can be the worst.
I sent a letter to my son in jail listing the reasons why I would no longer do a bail out or get a lawyer. 20 years of enabling and rescuing hadn't worked so I was going to step out of the way and let him deal with the consequences. I also told him that I was mentally, physically, and financially exhausted.
He will have nothing to do but read this letter and it may
(or may not) sink in. You have nothing to lose.