Hi JMF~~~Please don't feel like your a failure. You love your son and it can put us in bad places at times. I fed into my sons addiction for a few years while not even knowing what I was doing. Now~~talk about stupid. Until I went to counciling I had no idea about so-dependency and how I was hurting him more than helping. So~~put that outta your head!! Like I told Chris...I will not give him money for fear that he will use it on drugs. Flat out!!!!!! You have to worry about yourself and I know thats hard. There's the emotional side to this and the smart side..Took me a while and I know your getting it. Hang in there sweety~~~we are all her for you. Smiles, Bonnie