what really helped me to say no and stop enabling was to see the co-dependent-dance, the pattern we had gotten into and how my fear kept me there...I needed to look at that fear and what I was afraid would happen if I decided to stop 'playing'
then I realized what my enabling was doing to my AD and that became way more important to me than losing her like or love...that clinched it....
this is tough stuff......detaching..
I can have a good giggle if I think back to my early outofcontrolcodie days..
you are doing fine...just keep getting back up on that horse and don't be so hard on yourself...oh yeah, and boundaries, boundaries, boundaries..
