This was timely for me today, because I said no to something today that I did not want to do, and someone I love is angry at me because of it. I am trying to work on my co-de behaviors with everyone and everything in my life. This is not in regards to the a in my life, but my own family. I set up a clear boundary of a responsibility that is not mine. I made it clear months ago, and today someone I love expected me to do it anyway. I did not. I am still feeling bad, wanting their approval and understanding rather than their anger, but I think that even though I feel bad, I would feel worse if I went through with it. I was asking myself this morning "How important is it?" I was called selfish and bad, but I don't think so. I think it was important that I set this boundary so that if there is a "next time" my position will be clear.