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Old 08-13-2008, 10:32 AM
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blessed4x
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Originally Posted by LaTeeDa View Post
If I ignore the signal and make no changes, the anger becomes resentment.
Thank you for giving me words for this. It is resentment that I'm feeling and it is becoming toxic. It is important for me to hear what my part is in all of this. I want my kids to see a strong woman who is able to make decisions and not a victim.

At this point in time I don't see that I will ever be the person that can live with AH and detach in love, the end of our relationship seems eminent, but I still can't see how to get from here to there. I guess maybe it's wanting to get from here to there without going through the pain, which also sounds crazy because it's been nothing but pain for a long time now.
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