hey startingover2
(((hugs)))
Well if the truth is ugly and painful then so be it.
You're doing the right thing.
If it causes him pain, the fault is his own. You're simply telling the truth and protecting your daughter and you know you will never ever regret that.
The alcoholics in my life have often gotten violently angry when they are exposed as "less than" the false image that they work so hard to perpetuate. That false image is only serving their addiction and I came to realize that it was hurting ME to be involved in any way shape or form in helping perpetuate that phony image. So, their anger doesn't scare me anymore, and I simply won't participate in any charade that spares them facing their true selves, because my integrity and my sanity is based in REALITY.
Heavy stuff for you right now....sending you a shot of courage - you're really being so strong!
big (((((HUGS)))))
Peace,
B.