Have you thought about putting yourself in his shoes? I said the same thing to my ex A. What I really sounded like to him was that I was far better than him and it was a putdown on my part. Have you thought about how toxic your comments can be to others? I sure didn't until I started listening to myself. "If you need help I am here for you" translates into "You are not strong enough as a human being, so call me because I am stronger than you".