Alaia,
That's great that your ABF has agreed to work things out that way with you. You seem very strong, and you inspire me to keep my boundaries as well.
My RABF is on parole, so he can't screw up in terms of relapsing, etc. So what I'm on the lookout for are signs of him returning to his old mental and emotional patterns. It's is a bit more complicated, but.. he knows he is on probation with me. One screw up, and we're done. I've given him too many chances, and I need to hold myself accountable too.