OH and check out this thread about the lying. My guy fell back into some lies very soon after getting out of rehab and my world crashed down on me for a few hours..... but with the ESH and my recovery tools.... I got myself back up again!
The lying is a hard one for us, but also a defense mechanism that they are used to doing! It's kind of like the mentality that it's better to ask for forgiveness rather than permission. Man..... that mentality drives me bonkers...... but I'm not taking it personally and realizing it's his issue..... not mine!!!!!
Here is the thread that *REALLY* helped me.........
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ady-begun.html