You've heard it before sweetie - actions, actions, actions - all the rest is quacking.
We want to believe they are cabable of getting clean on their own but that is usually not the case, no matter if they've been in 10 different detoxes or rehabs in the past and know the drill - sometimes it has to be medically supervised and they need to be "away" from everyone.
I can't remember what your AH's DOC is. I'll go back and look but I think, if I remember correctly, we are in the boat. It is so hard to walk away but you know that denial and downplaying their usage is all part of the lie, all part of the game, all part of addiction. He's not a rock bottom but it sounds like you are. Time to start thinking about a plan and try to figure out how much you are willing to risk to him.
Hugs and prayers girl, hugs and prayers. What doesn't kill us makes us stronger - REALLY. Stay here and keep posting cause it's the bridge to sanity.