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Old 07-26-2008, 09:35 AM
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cece
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Wow. Good for you!

It must be hard not only to deal with your own detachment but then also have to deal with others lack of it.
We struggle as parents with guilt and second-guessing in our desire to do the right thing. Having other family members enabling and then outright telling you that you are doing "this" wrong is a pretty big obstacle to recovery.
And yet you keep plugging on, taking care of yourself and helping Lauren the best way possible.
Because we have come so far in our education of this disease, its hard to remember that sometimes family members enable because just like the addict, they aren't ready to see what's there and they aren't ready to do the hard work necessary, so denial is a lot easier.
I think it's a pretty big statement as well as a big step to take yourself away from a toxic situation, even if it's temporary. Maybe without you in between, they'll get a better look at the situation. Let them deal with themselves and give yourself a break from it!
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