Originally Posted by
juju 
“Oh, well, maybe I should go to a class to learn to ignore the things about you I don’t like” (that’s how he refers to my Al-Anon, a class to learn how to ignore him, deal with him, etc.)
You don't need to figure things out.
You don't need to figure him out.
He's an A, he's into manipulation, finger-pointing, denial, and a lot of blah, blah, blah.
If my AH said "maybe I should go to a class to learn to ignore the things about you I don't like," I would simply respond, "If you want to, okay; it's your choice."
I put up with this garbage for years. Finally, I just stayed out of the house a great deal of the time and kept all interaction to a minimum. The less response AH got from me, the less sarcasm and other nasty junk I had to listen to.