Originally Posted by
nowinsituation 
IWe haven't actually spoken to each other for about two months, I just keep thinking that if he is that upset he could/should tell me directly -- but he's always been so passive/agressive and this just seems to be more of the same.
You said it ... he is passive-aggressive. And he is using "sign language" to let you know what he cannot say.
It also tells me that he is immature.
I'm glad your daughter didn't see his demonstration of how a kid would behave. Don't let it get to you. You have him figured out (as much as you can figure out an A). Let it go and ignore his asinine behavior.
Just take care of your side of the street. Obviously, his side is in total disrepair.