Originally Posted by
marle 
Sorry, she is fine. She was sick this morning and barely made her Opiate Recovery Group. Her phone was dead and she did not realize that I was such a freak. I need to calm down. Hugs, Marle
Maybe... or maybe, with continued sobriety, she can retrain you. After all, it was her behavior that trained you to be this way in the first place.
FYI - my mom quit drinking a few times, then finally figured out how to stay quit back in 1980. I don't think I quit some of MY behaviors (checking her eyes, waiting for the other shoe to drop) for several YEARS.
She has 28 years, today. But when she told me a few years ago that she toasted New Year's Eve with champagne (held it to her lips, but didn't sip) ... I IMMEDIATELY went right back into crisis mode, for a little while, at any rate.
We are who we are. And we use our program to help ourselves cope with behaviors we have practiced for YEARS. Time takes time. For them. For us.
(((Marle)))