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Old 03-30-2002, 04:29 AM
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smoke gets in my eyes
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Hi Researchwoman,
Welcome to the recovery forum!

V is right. The only thing you can DO is to take care of yourself. As to how can you watch someone die... what choices do you have? If he continues as is, he will certainly not live very long. You could approach this situation as if it was any other terminal illness. Or, you could separate and not watch. I know that sounds very cold. However, your husband is the only one who can choose the third possibility.

About 10 years ago there was an article in Reader's Digest about a little girl who was washed into a culvert in Texas. She survived in the drainpipe for several days before she was found. An interviewer told her she was very brave. She replied "I wasn't brave. I didn't have any choice." Likewise, you do not have any choice over your husband's drinking. Do what YOU need to do to survive.

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