Beegee,
Great words from those above.
The only other thing I can think of is the value of learning to set boundaries. Yep, learned that, too, from Al Anon meetings and from wise folks on this board.
You know, you don't HAVE to talk with this friend. If conversations with her upset you, it is perfectly okay for you to set a boundary and decide that talking with this woman or being around this woman just isn't good for you at this time. In recovery we learn:wtf2 that we have to take healthy care of ourselves and boundary setting is one of those ways.
I just know when I learned to do it, set boundaries with my AD and with other folks around me, and sometimes it was just by saying "no" in a nice way, man, oh man, did my life become more peaceful and less complicated.
So here's to boundary setting....... gotta love those boundaries that assure me of MY serenity!
Hugs,
Hangin' In