I will say the same thing, "Live in today but remember the lessons of yesterday." Yes you must be prepared in case of a relapse but that does not mean that you can't be grateful for what is happening today. There definitely are no guarantees with addiction. Your daughter may never relapse and if you are sitting around waiting for that to happen you will be missing all of the great moments in between. What I have found helps me is to give myself some time at the end of the day just for prayer. Praying for the strength to accept whatever happens and then giving my worries to God. My daughter will be coming home at the end of the month and I am facing the same worries that you are. So sending you big, understanding hugs. Marle