Sleepygoat,
Each of us moms have to decide what we're going to do. I know I have to check my decisions with the recovery info that I now have in my brain. Somedays can still get very confusing....is this enabling, is this helping, should I, shouldn't I ...? I've found that all areas/decisions are just not black and white.
You've thought this thing out which I think is the most important thing. If I just go with my heart, I screw up everytime. And there are times I've thought it out, then look back and think, "Darn it, I messed that one up." But ya know, even when those times happen, I keep trudging forward, hopefully learning the lesson I was supposed to learn.
I think you're a great mom and your AD is blessed to have you. I am keeping both you and your daughter in my prayers, praying that God will get your AD to where she needs to be in order to surrender.
Big mama hugs cause I know how these AD's can tear a mama's heart,
Hangin' In