if i could pick what is common from what all you guys told me it would be: i should stop feeling responsible or guilty towards his addiction and the choice to quit using is ultimately in his hands NOT mine... i will be waiting for him to get out of rehab in the coming days or weeks i still dont know... and i will put some boundaries and conditions. i will mean it this time when i will tell him: if u go back to drugs we're through...a you said i will be supportive but not at the cost of my happiness nor my well bein'.. thanks to all of you